The Communication Dissonance

A guest article by a fellow aamjunta

Dear Friends,

Can we talk to a tree or speak to a mountain? Or,  to the lake or meadow for that matter?

How many of us would answer a yes to this?

Possibly none of us barring those few with firm believe in mysticism and it’s unconventionally respectable powers of extracting information from the lifeless and non-speakers. Again this will be tacit and conditional as the occurrence of such an event defies conventional wisdom that dangerously restricts our limitations.  Those of us who believe in it, they just believe it. No knowing is implied from this belief. For the rest of us, the answer would be a resounding ‘NO’.

It would be premature to get into a conclusion now. Let us probe into a similar question. Can we talk to a fellow human being, our own species? We are doing that every moment, for generations, from unrecorded ancestry and till imaginable posterity. The chorus will agree on that. Your affirmation certainly renders the initial question invalid – we can never talk to a tree or a mountain. No belief works here, as we are convinced that it’s impossible and this is the collective conclusion from continuous conventional wisdom.  Human beings do have a mind; Words, sounds, gestures are so relevant to them to exercise the power of communication. It may sound irrational, but the question is – how often are we able to do that?  Well, we at time in our tortuous journey of self discovery stumble upon the most unconventional truth that it is not always possible to communicate with a fellow human being. We can effortlessly talk to them, but we may not communicate as communication not only does require mind, attention, understanding, language, sounds, gestures and all the rest of it, but also it does require the  conscious presence of the ‘other’.

Communication, as a prerogative, demands the ‘other’ to be present there consciously. Talking is never a problem, but communication is. Only those of us with a required quality of intelligence, at least, recognize this. Akin to that, we can talk to a tree or a mountain. Yes, we can – in fact; we can do so for months and years together, but cannot certainly communicate with those. So talking is possible, and it never has a technical problem. We can talk to anything or anybody in the world as it requires only the ‘one’, not the ‘other’. When it comes to communication, it becomes a problem, a real problem. We share or pass on information, ideas, conclusions, ideologies, theories and so on to others. But we hardly do communicate; to put it more aptly, we hardly require it. In a world that recognizes professionalism, competition, growth and output, what our daily lives require are offices, clubs, canteens, pubs, gyms, playgrounds, malls and all the rest of it those don’t require communication to happen always. What we consider as communication, in fact, doesn’t require the presence of ‘other’.

More so, such condition is absolutely fine at the places when we dwell outside, but to dwell inside communication becomes highly imperative. Because the contents those we find inside are not words or information but the responses, echoes, reactions and reflections that control, guide, motivate us. Communication is not a call to defy our over worked routine, not a call to apply breaks to our fast paced rat raced life, neither a call for revolution or a desire to break relation. It is indispensable though not for pace but for peace, not just for entertainment but for celebration, not for growth but towards the fulfilment of life.

Thankfully, the enormous progress of technology has gifted us with loads of devices of communication but the generation is troubled and confused, as ever, with the painful attempts to flee from the self-erected bar of confinement, constricted conscience and suffocation. How many of us have experienced this horrible trap of self made restrictions? How many of us have come out unscathed and how many of are still healing the wound? What we do –we adhere to all sorts of vicarious means those are gracefully available around us.  But, the ephemeral happiness is no real joy. It is not natural, it is so crudely manufactured.

Do we communicate? How often we are there?

No. We just speak out some words, we just sound. We can communicate even while blasting at someone or hating someone, which also we don’t do most of the times. The moment of anger can be a moment of glory if proper communication can find a place in our expression – the least it can make us aware of the reasons of anger and the persons who receive it; are they the right ones?

Does communication reveal anything regarding the loneliness of a human, even at this state of progress in the technological comfort and privileges? Shockingly the green city of Bangalore, with all its beauty and opportunities, witnesses at least two suicides on daily basis. What propels those tears and agony of solitude and suffocation? Where are those cool dudes and pals whose shoulders are much in need in the moment? To be rested and relieved upon? The shoulder, not the chest on which pseudo emotional intimacies were converted into real eviction of physical desires and then the relation being thrown into the garbage of passing moments to be forgotten and to move on to the next event?

Friends, the essence of human life lies in its expansion towards greater causes and for bigger mass. That is only possible through harmony, mutual respect and acceptance. Let me reiterate, communication holds the key to it.

I hope you are right there. 🙂

Regards,

Chinmaya Nayak

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10 Responses

  1. Rightly said. Communication is really a difficult task and some times the easiest way. Communication does not necessarily require any language. It is like man-ki-bhasa.

    Superb 🙂

  2. Usually every one talks and a few communicate. Many argue for the shake argument and to satisfy ther big ‘E’.

  3. Excellent analysis ! Very well-written !!

    This article also much reminds me of two episodes –

    1. Acharya Sir J.C. Bose: the famous (British Indian, 1858-1937) scientist and his brilliant experiments on ways and responses of plants to stimuli (particularly that of human-beings or animals) !!!

    2. the English movie: Cast Away

  4. These days communication is wrongly interpreted as speech. Communication is important not only for our daily life, but also for all other jobs such as diplomacy, education, business, etc.

    More than communication, the communication-gap is important. A small mis-understanding in the form of communication gap can create a havoc in our life. So, be very careful for this.

    Like your last para more touchy “Friends, the essence of human life lies in its expansion towards greater causes and for bigger mass. That is only possible through harmony, mutual respect and acceptance. Let me reiterate, communication holds the key to it.”

  5. Good to know that you also publish guest articles. This is also another aamjunta article.

    I think Chinmay has written very well. Quite powerful and coherent with aamjunta touch. Good job.

    But, one point I think could have been added about the fallout of bad communication. This is also very imp.

  6. Communication is the bridge between the self and the other. The moment one understands this, his/her life becomes cool. More than talking, listening is important for effective communication. I think the author has captured many such things in this small post. Good work.

    But as a critique, I could not see the divergence quality in the article; bit monotonous.

  7. Thanks Pals.

  8. Dear Chinmaya,its absoluately correct,The way you have written its was so nice.

  9. Well written, well presented, original insight. Pls continue writing on such topics of considerable relevance. It will be a real contribution to human understanding and knowledge.

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